I may have found the secret.

I haven't posted in a while.

I've been corresponding with Ann Regentin, an erotica author who writes about disabled people. I was drawn to open the conversation by an article she wrote called "Plan D: Love in the world of Chronic Illness"

I'm still emailing back and forth, and while she has had many practical suggestions, she said that she didn't have the essential piece of the puzzle. Her partners (an ex-husband and an ex-lover) had never come to terms with her disability, and she didn't know how I could do it.

She set me on the path, however, and I think I may have come to it. I'm not sure, so I'm going to let this percolate, let this set a while, and make sure that I know what I'm talking about.

Then I'll post, I promise.