"On Dry Spells" by Audacia Ray

First, go read this post by Audacia Ray.

Done?

Good.

Just because I'm not having sex with my wife doesn't mean I'm not having sex.

It doesn't mean I'm "missing out". It doesn't mean our relationship is damaged or weak or wrong. It just means we're not having sex.

And that's all.

Now that's not to say that not having sex with my wife is a good thing. It still hurts and it still feels like there's something between us. But "fixing" that wouldn't magically make everything else into puppies and sunshine.

Through my writing and reading, and the masturbation sessions they inspire, I have sex.

I have a sex life.

Learning this has been an incredible revelation. I relief, really.

Thank you, Audacia Ray.